Standards

Standards

August 15, 2023Posted inAchievement, Christian, Christianity, Health, Mental Health, Quality, Self-care, Self-reflection, Standards

 “If you don’t stand for something, you’ll fall for anything”. -Alexander Hamilton & others…


One definition of Standard is a level of quality or attainment (Oxford Languages). 

What set of standards have we put in place for ourselves?

Whether we acknowledge it, we should be mindful of our: 

  • Spiritual Health

  • Physical Health 

  • Mental Health

  • Financial Health


What standard have we set for each thus far?

What quality do we bring to our own lives? 

Reflecting on the last couple of months, personally, I have been managing to: 

🗹 Work on my blog(s) more. 

🗹 Be intentional about my day and duties. 

🗹 Wake up early to take care of myself and other goals I’ve set for myself. 

🗹 Follow a budget. 

*I also plan to start a 21-day financial fast as soon as my book arrives. Am I excited? Um, no, but I look forward to the benefits of building financial discipline. 


🗹 In hindsight, I completed a fast consisting of raw vegetables, raw fruit, and water only with no food between the times of 6am to 6pm. It took me down through there yawl, but it was so good spiritually and physically (detoxing the body). I don’t even want to drink more than 1 cup of coffee (if that) a day after the headaches I endured! 


🗹 I’m working out more at work, taking the stairs instead of the elevators, walking the trail, or going to the gym instead of the cafeteria (lol, sigh). It has been mentally refreshing, too. 

Suffering Well

Suffering Well

July 1, 2023Posted inBereavement, Grief, Grieving, Loss, Mental Health, Peace, Recovery, Restoration, Strength, Suffering

 We are not exempt from pain and suffering, but how we handle it matters the most. 

In Loving Memory of 

“April Murray-Moore”

Loss can be anyone, or thing, of importance to you. A loved one(s), relationship, personal health, pet, job, or place are all examples of things that we will and/or may encounter as losses in our lives. 

So, how do we handle loss? We process it by going through the common emotions that follow loss. Simply putting it, we grieve. Grief is identified in stages by Dr. Elizabeth Kubler Ross. They are as followed:

1. Denial 

2. Anger 

3. Bargaining 

4. Depression 

5. Acceptance. 

We may very well not experience each stage of grief.  We all have different perceptions and emotional responses to life in general. We simply have different personalities with some of us seeming to live on a natural high all the time (pointing to myself, smile) vs. others who rather not see sunlight until noon (and that’s okay too). If we were all the same, we would be boring, smile. So, with that being said, the grieving process is very individualized.

No one, and I mean NO one can tell us how long to grieve. Just know that if it’s been 6 months per say and we’re still finding it hard to live, then we’re not suffering well. It’s normal to question God, but if we can’t seem to get out of that “why me” and “it’s my loss and nothing else matters” thought pattern than we’re not suffering well. I encourage us all to not get stuck on that end of the spectrum, come back up for some air, and continuously aim for the acceptance stage. We may go back and forth and that’s okay but aim to suffer well by finding ways to move life forward continuously.

Click here >  The Stages of Grief: How to Understand Your Feelings (healthline.com) for a more in debt understanding of the grieving process. 

It’s okay to seek professional help. We do not have to suffer in silence.