Are you easily offended?
- Someone doesn’t respond in a promptly manner via text, call, conversation, etc.?
- You don’t like how they responded to you?
- You don’t like how they tend to do something?
- You don’t like how they handled you, or the situation?
- They didn’t speak to you, but you know they saw you?
- They didn’t check on you when you felt like you needed them most?
“Annoyance or resentment brought about by a perceived insult to or disregard for oneself or one’s standards or principles.” — Dictionary.com
One meaning of Perception is described as
“A way of regarding, understanding, or interpreting something; a mental impression.” — Dictionary.com
I must say that there are legitimate offenses. No doubt about it. The purpose of this post is to recognize-
1. Your own perceived notion of offenses that doesn’t stand on facts, but feelings…
For example, you may feel offended that a coworker didn’t speak to you in passing, but the fact is the coworker has just had a disturbing family trauma unfold that you are unaware of. However, now your perceived offense draws a gap in your ability to connect with the coworker to be a vessel of encouragement and support.
2. How you handle legitimate offenses…
For example, someone offends you by making a very rude comment. How does that affect the rest of your day? Do you let it steal your joy, and now you can’t focus on the tasks that need to be done because of the feelings you are experiencing? Just like the adage, “hurt people, hurt people”, people sometimes operate from a hurt place. Not making excuses for the rude individual, but you can’t let their negativity affect you, or the outcome of your day. Don’t let their crab put a stain on you!
3. If you are the offender…
Do you operate from a broken, or
selfish, place? Do you consider the well-being of others, or do you immediately
get to the point of matter from the angle of which you perceive it? In other
words, do you go from 0-100 real quick? If so, you most likely disregard others
and their feeling, or the facts of the matter, based on how you feel. If this 3rd
point describes you (after doing some self-reflecting), can you
envision yourself letting go of the things/situation(s) that left you broken,
so that you can heal and move forward in a more positive realm to be able to
connect with others in a more positive way?
Now, I’m no therapist by a long
shot. All I have is my experiences, my upbringing, my personality, and I would
like to think the guidance of the Holy Spirit through God’s Word to help myself
and others (like you) to be our best selves. So, hopefully, this blog post
blesses you somehow and feel free to drop comments below. I am not easily
offended (smile), and I would love to hear from you!
Bible verses for offenses:
Proverbs 19:11 – The discretion of a man deferreth his anger; and it is his
glory to pass over a transgression.
James 1:19 – Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to
hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath:
Luke 17:3-4 – Take heed to yourselves: If thy brother trespass against
thee, rebuke him; and if he repent, forgive him.
Matthew 18:15-17 – Moreover if thy brother shall trespass against thee, go and
tell him his fault between thee and him alone: if he shall hear thee, thou hast
gained thy brother.
Proverbs 18:19 – A brother offended is harder to be won than a strong city:
and their contentions are like the bars of a castle.
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VERSES ABOUT OFFENSE
Be blessed,
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